Sunday, November 26, 2017

Make Sh!t Happen

Maybe it is the fact that I am getting older. Maybe it is because life happens whether I am living or not! Maybe it  is just the fact that I have 3 children that look to me as a role model.  Maybe it is because  my mind is  focused on achieving certain goals. Or maybe I really want my dreams of  building a successful non-profit organization to come true.  But I have no time for excuses.

My mom used to tell me when I would tell her I wanted something "Want in one hand and shit in the other. Which one you think will fill up faster."  I would get so annoyed.  And NOW I tell my kids the same thing.  LOL! Really think about it.  It makes perfect sense.  You have to make shit happen!  Just wanting isn't enough.  You either have to earn it or you have to get it.  

I have spent way too much of my life believing people's word and justifying my disappointment in their lack of action, because I really wanted it to happen.  I even made myself believe my own excuses, because it was easier to deal with not getting things done. Listen don't get me wrong things come up, we get side tracked.  But instead of making up an excuse as to why it didn't happen and just giving up, we have to take accountability and make it happen no matter what!  

So take a moment to reflect on something or things that you want.  It could be losing a few pounds, or taking a vacation you have been dreaming about.  Stop making excuses, don't wait for that friend who says they will go to the gym with you.  Go get yourself a piggy bank and start dropping your change in it and go on that vacation.  Whatever it is!  MAKE SHIT HAPPEN!!!!!! 

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

A Boogie Down Chick's World : Help Make Difference

A Boogie Down Chick's World : Help Make Difference: This post is for parents or loved ones who have had a child diagnosed with a disability.  In my case the disability happens to be Autism.  ...

Help Make A Difference

Do you remember that moment when you were told that your child had Autism?  I do! And even though I was the one that asked that they screen him for Autism during his assessments because I felt something was off; I still couldn't believe my ears. I felt like someone hit the pause button. Everything just stopped, I only heard the beat of my heart in my ears, and I felt so lost! I knew almost nothing about Autism. As a parent it is our job to take care of them, and make sure they were okay.  But yet here we were, sitting in a doctor's office being told that our baby boy had Autism, and I had no idea how to make him better.  

I did the only thing I knew how to do, look up Autism and try to learn as much as I could.  The thing I remember feeling the most was alone.  I had my husband and both our families who were there and very supportive, but I  still felt alone. I didn't know anyone else who was going through or even someone who went through what I was going through.  It bothered me that when I went out to events or public places, I had to constantly explain my son's behavior.  And even after explaining I still felt as if we didn't fit in.  It wasn't until I attended an event walk where I was surrounded by other families and individuals that were actually going through what I was going through.  A place where all the children with Autism could truly be themselves, because people were aware and they were accepting.  The only problem here was that it was once a year! The other 364 days of the year were back to just us.  I longed for that feeling of acceptance and non-judgment.  

A little over 5 years ago my son asked to play baseball.  This was huge for me.  I searched for a place where he could play.  We eventually found a place.  It was outside of where we lived but we were willing to make the trip so that he could play.  Once we got there I remember feeling lost and a bit out of place.  I eventually met another family who were super nice, but I struggled with the fact that I didn't feel completely comfortable.  So I went ahead and I reached out to a local little league to see if they would give us a field for a little while to let the kids play.  They did and we started the Bronxchester Challenger League!  And from the Challenger League we really saw a need for more recreational services for our children.  Which is why I founded D3 Sports & Recreation Inc. I wanted to created an organization that could provide a space where they can truly be themselves, and where parents could feel comfortable as well.  A place where our children were given the same opportunities and activities as typical children have, but not have to rob a bank to afford them. 

I am proud to say that we are now going into our 5th year of Challenger baseball, and we have just completed our second session of Art. Our Art program success was due to grants we received from Autism Speaks and Bronx Council on the Arts.  We have also incorporated special events such as Halloween and the Holiday season into our services.  We are still very brand new and we are working hard to continue to provide these services to the community, but it is becoming more and more difficult to secure funds to facilitate the program.  Because we rely mainly on donations and volunteers, it is difficult to provide the quality of service we would like to offer. I would like to take this time to thank Monsignor Scanlan High School for giving us their space to run our Art Program and Special Events. I am basically working my 40 hour week to pay bills and working on D3 programming every chance I get with the help of board members who are very hands on and dedicated to the organization.  Unfortunately this may not be enough to continue.  

D3 Sports & Recreation Inc. is looking for generous individuals who want to help us make a difference in the Autism community.  If you would like to donate to D3 Sports & Recreation Inc. please feel free to click on the link provided below. Own a business and want to help and also promote your company?  Sponsor a team! 

D3 Sports is also in need of members for their board that have knowledge and skills to guide us to a level where we can truly provide the quality of programming our families truly deserve.  If you would like to sit on the board, please contact the Governance Chairperson Chaquon Polanco at  

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Saturday, March 18, 2017

Life is TOO Short Not to Live it!

I have a new outlook on life.  Life and how I live it has become my priority. I am reflecting more on my life and thinking of all the things in life I've always wanted to do.  The things that I once enjoyed don't give me the same joy. I am learning that those you counted on aren't always going to be the same people, and that's okay.    

Maybe getting older is making me more aware of my mortality, or maybe learning that my mom has lung cancer has increased my awareness of it.  She has chosen to refuse treatment and live out the rest of her life. She wants us to enjoy her and not watch her suffer.  My mother is a very strong stubborn woman, who has been through so much, but always gets through it.  I see where I get it from.  Whatever the reasons are that changed my perspective, it has given me a better appreciation of life and the time that is spent while I am alive.  

As long as I can remember, I've never really felt like I fit in, and longed to be accepted.  I have learned that blood may connect you, but doesn't hold you together.  I've had family stop communicating with me, without ever being given a reason why.  I have other members tell me how they've witnessed others ridicule me behind my back. I won't ever deny that it has hurt me.  I tried reaching out looking for answers. I never got answers, but I have forgiven them none the less. I would never deny our relationship but I will not push myself on anyone anymore.  I truly appreciate those that want to be a part of my life and accept me.  

As a child we can't wait to grow up and become an adult.  Time felt like it was on pause. A minute felt like a hour, an hour felt like  forever!  But as an adult we wish we could be children again.  Time flies and there aren't enough minutes in a day. So make sure each minute and every hour is spent doing what makes you happy.  Most of all give 100% in everything you do.  If you can't, then say no.  

Death is imminent, and we may not know when it will happen, so we might as well make our time here meaningful.  I am learning that I need to take better care of me.  I need to heal my mind, my body and my soul.  As someone who suffers from anxiety disorder doing this can be difficult.  In an effort to heal myself and reduce my panic attacks, I am trying to worry less about what I can't handle.  Having expectations can be disappointing, so I am expecting less of others, and Instead I am setting higher expectations of myself.  

I have always known that tomorrow isn't promised, and we shouldn't waste it being miserable. None of us know when we lay our heads down at night if we will wake up the next morning.  So if you do, you should be grateful for another day and make the best of it.  Don't spend your days or time doing something you don't enjoy.  You shouldn't be somewhere that you feel forced to be.  If you happen to be in that type situation, make the best of it.  

Tell those you love that you love them.  Let go of grudges and forgive.  Life is short and can be taken at anytime.  So live life.  Do what makes you happy. Invest in those that are worthy of your time and effort.  Take chances. Say what you mean, and really mean what you say. Cry because you're laughing too hard.  Love like your heart has never been broken and dance like no one is watching!